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You need to be able to see this on yourself if you want to improve yourself,” says Kofterou.
An anonymous source who ran one of the first off-line professional matchmaking services in Cyprus (hosting 200 clients on her books) adds “people are afraid of opening up to each other and being vulnerable because of the gossip level”. These judgements and out dated expectations within society start with grandparents, then parents and now people do it to each other within their own generation in order to fit in explains Kofterou. If they are not ticking off the boxes, they get depressed and will judge you. Of course we’re not going to approach each other and date, we’re far too busy being threatened and distancing ourselves from each other.” Unfortunately, these narratives in people’s heads, clash with the times. In the past, relationships were organised and the ‘narrative’ was accepted.
And to the women to try and take it as a compliment if a guy approaches you, enjoy the attention and be responsive, smile; it takes a lot of courage for some one to approach.” Matchmaker suggests “go on a second date because the first time there’s nerves.
This first impressions last thing is just not right, it’s a cliché.
Kofterou believes that people would benefit greatly both personally and in relationships if they addressed the ‘narrative’.
They can do this by identifying their own values, principles, passions, needs and what gives them happiness, either with the help of a therapist or from books or the internet.
Cypriots who lived abroad or foreigners are more at ease with this part.
Plus they don’t always know how to react when you show them that you like them.” With such a small tightly knit community, it’s no surprise that people wish to remain anonymous when they talk about such personal matters.
Many men, he says, are turning to the company of “German girls in Paphos, Russian girls in Limassol and English Cypriot girls in Larnaca” for dialogue and a confidence boost.
You need a general level of awareness of your behaviours.
You may be putting obstacles in your way or hurting others around you.
Kofterou also believes it’s coming back in fashion and Mr. “It can make women feel a little safer if someone they know, knows the man well and therefore be more approachable,” explains Kofterou.
This subject is vast and complex and here seems to be no right or wrong answers for dating or relationships but there are insightful suggestions.